Why I Write Erotica

Why I Write Erotica

Did you know November 15th is National I Love Writing Day? And I love writing erotica. I’m proud to be an erotica writer. Today is National I Love Writing Day and after learning about this obscure holiday, created by author and ghostwriter, John Riddle in 2002, I was inspired to share my love for writing. Writing erotica in particular. I write for a multitude of reasons and in many genres. In my humdrum daily life, I write nonfiction, digital marketing content for beauty brands and creatives. I’m also a mom. Yeah, mom life – diaper changes, endless loads of laundry… you get it. So, why would a woman like me write erotica? Here are the reasons why my dears:

Why I Write Erotica

My name is Liza and I write erotica. No, that’s not how I usually introduce myself. In fact, I take many precautions to avoid telling people what I do.  In my personal life, people simply know me as a writer. A book nerd who gets paid to help others create blog content. In other words – I’m boring. I’m a work-at-home mother of two young children. I’m a wife, a daughter, and aunt. I hold many hats and live a normal everyday existence.

The Freaks Come Out At Night

That is until night falls. When the kids and the hubby are all fed, bathed and in bed, that’s when mama is ready to play. This is the time I come to life. I pull out my laptop, turn off the lights, and immerse myself in fantasy worlds and alternate realities. Writing provides me with an outlet. I get to put my frustrations, emotions, apprehensions, fears…everything, down on that page. The characters and the situations I put them in all relate to me in some way. Now, while I do love writing romance, there’s something about penning erotica that does it for me. When writing romance, there are certain guidelines that you must follow. Believe it or not, if your book doesn’t end “happily ever after” or at least “happily for now” then it’s not a romance. No lie.erotica writer liza bangston

I’m A Rebel, Baby

With erotica, you don’t have to be so strict. With erotica, someone just needs to cum. And depending on your level of raunch, that may be a little or a lot. With erotica, you don’t have to worry about love or what may happen later. Although, I personally enjoy erotica with romantic tones. I can’t help it. At heart, I’m a hopeless romantic. Just dig my tagline. I’m not the only one, seeing as romance is the bestselling book genre. And it has been for years. My personal life is not romantic. Stained sweatpants and a messy bun isn’t the sexiest thing to come home to. I know this, but hey. It is what it is. It’s hard transforming from mama to sexy, hell kitten. At least for me. That is until the house is quiet and I’m alone with my laptop. The only sound the clicking of keys as I take characters on a wild ride or two. Or three. When I turn into Naughty Liza, the erotica writer… I feel like a woman. Not someone’s mom. Not a wife, nor consultant. As my stories come to life, my own life fades to black as I allow myself to pour whatever I’ve gone through that day on a page. What’s something that my man could have done or said that would have got my engines running. Much of what I write doesn’t reach the light of day. I keep it tucked away in a private place, just for me. The stories I publish on either this blog or on Amazon are completely different than my private collection. The stories that make it out in the limelight have been tailored and edited for a wider viewing audience. Everyone doesn’t read erotica. Which they should. Not all erotica is raunchy or explicit. Some can actually be kind of sweet and very romantic. As with any genre, erotica writers put their own unique spin to crafting stories. Some erotica writers produce straight word porn. Plot? What’s that? Let’s get down to some fucking. Other writers take a more subtle approach and weave explicit sex into romantic storylines. There’s all type of erotica. Sci-fi. Yeah, Big Foot Erotica is a thing! There’s gothic erotica. Mystery and suspense. Historical. Interracial. You name it. Whatever you’re looking for, you will find it. Why? Because like I, many established and aspiring writers use erotica as a tool to strengthen their writing.

Woo Me With Your Words

Writing sex scenes is hard. It can be difficult to convey the words, the feelings, the sights and sounds in a way that doesn’t come off clinical. For someone like me who writes nonfiction most of the day, when it comes time to switch into kink mode, writing about sex was difficult. But oh, once you can get a sex scene down. You’re good to go.Quivering members and such….. What’s in a good sex scene? Well, sex of course. How descriptive? That depends on the writer. But any well-written scene invokes all the senses. Especially those that get members quivering and such. I consider a good sex scene one where I can picture myself, there in the bedroom. Or the mountaintop, beach, wherever it’s taking place. I want to be able to imagine the satin of the sheets or the rough sand grinding into my ass. You get it. A good sex scene takes you there with the characters. You feel what they feel and are swept away in everything going on. And isn’t that the goal of any well-written story. A sex scene is an emotional ride, whether there are feelings are not. It has ups and downs. Introductions, climaxes, and resolutions all in one chapter or scene. It’s a mini three-act structure, in a sexual form. At least for me, and I would have to say many other writers would agree.

Nuts and Bombshells

In a nutshell, I like to write romantic kink. Writing erotica, for me, is a liberating experience. It’s also very therapeutic. It gives me an escape from my everyday reality. And it’s also done wonders for my sex life. While we do struggle to find alone time, with two young children. When we do… well, I’ll leave that to your imagination. Do you write or read erotica? I would love to know how you feel about the genre. What’s your favorite type of erotica? Your favorite erotica writer? Hopefully, I am one of them. That’s the end. Thanks for reading sugar britches.